Reasons to be attracted:
ONE: When you pick a partner for life – make sure of their pedigree:
“An account of the genealogy of Jesus the Messiah, the son of David, the son of Abraham.
Abraham was the father of Isaac, and Isaac the father of Jacob, and Jacob the father of Judah and his brothers, , , , And David was the father of Solomon by the wife of Uriah, and Solomon the father of Rehoboam, , , , And after the deportation to Babylon: Jechoniah was the father of Salathiel, and Salathiel the father of Zerubbabel, , , , and Jacob the father of Joseph the husband of Mary, of whom Jesus was born, who is called the Messiah. So all the generations from Abraham to David … fourteen … fourteen … and from the deportation to Babylon to the Messiah, fourteen generations. Matthew 1:1-17
TWO: Find out how compatible you both are:
“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27
THREE: Make sure you both share the same core values:
“What is written in the Law?” he replied. “How do you read it?” He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’” “You have answered correctly,” Jesus replied. “Do this and you will live.” Luke 10:26-28
When we go to church what is the reason?
“I bow down and prostrate myself – to say thank you. For I am not worthy to touch even His robe. I am a sinner without hope, so I come to ask His forgiveness, to call Him to me, to wash away this sin I carry – to be with others calling Him to us. That we each might look up for a second and see His face. That He might deign to come amongst us and touch each of us. To wash us clean.”
The dating service “the church” provides can be much like a dating agency. Pedigree – oh yes! Compatibility – of course! Core values – absolutely! Idol worship – shhhhhhhhh (don’t mention that word here, please).
And I wonder …
Must I be trained in “how to love”? Must I be taught “how to love”? Must I love a certain way – a detached way – a corporate way – a celeb idol way? When each of us already know the love of a parent, a child, a sweetheart, a passion we would die for …
Why must we be taught to bow, to scrape, to beg, to apologise, to be so distant from the one we love … What theological “degree in God” endows a knowledge of my heart … of love … of relationship? Within this academic learning and authorised shepherding teaching … where is the equality that true love gifts?
Where is the real earthy pithy relationship? The screaming abdabs … the frustration … the magical moments … the sweet anecdotes … the living inside each others skins … the sharing of a love so great it is life-changing … it is reciprocal … it is two-way … it is honest … it is equal.
It is equal. He and I are equal.
Or else – where is the honesty in our relationship? Where is the love in our relationship? Where is the joy in our relationship? Where is the commitment … the depth … the growth … the reciprocal desire to love … to share … to do … to be … together?
Why are we taught to look down rather than up? To beg rather than scream? To hope rather than grasp, clasp and never let go? Why are we never taught to be equal?
If the very place wherein we gather together is so absent of equality – so very filled with inequality … just what is it we are gathering together to worship?
And how is that so different from another kind of worship.
An idol on the cross. Fashioned by us. The one we can look up to. Because we crafted it.