“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Matthew 19:4-6
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31
We celebrate life with a party. We celebrate the memory of life with a wake. We celebrate orgasm in church.
So long as the two people are a man and a woman. So long as orgasm is exclusive to the blessed union. So long as orgasm does not happen before the union is blessed. So long as we can maintain the assumption that orgasm will create life.
Then we will celebrate with a wedding feast.
Yet to talk about orgasm as we talk of birth and death? No thank you! So we use the bible: Those with an attraction that cannot and must not be a union of “one flesh”.
We mean men who put themselves inside men – women who put themselves inside women. For that orgasm cannot result in creation of life. Not biblical. Not of God!
Yet we who have been blessed and married are expert at suppressing creation. We are a race of orgasm without creation (unless planned or by accident). We advise nations on the chemical interventions needed.
But only a man and woman can be married and become one. The bible says.
Do we think God damns those drawn to a gender not of “male and female”? Do we really believe that all the play, equipment, and experimentation between a married man and woman of orgasm is for the creation of life?
If I who had no choice in whether I was attracted to a man or woman orgasmically … if I who has taken for granted chemical suppression of creation of life … if I who has chosen when I wished to create life and when not … if I who has had many periods of abstention from the union of two into one … if I through no choice of my own am biblically acceptable …
How would I feel if, overnight, gay was the way to go. If I was the biblical outcast because I was born with an attraction to one gender now deemed the wrong gender?
We think it right to “move on” from the biblical commands in many areas. I look at other biblical words we have rewritten. Words of ownership of others. Women’s rights … black lives matter … no child born to die … abolition of slavery … human rights acts … Yet we continue to “own” orgasm.
We have chosen these few words of biblical orgasm and frozen them in time through need and fear.
The need to protect me from the fear that “I may be queer” ... to celebrate the absence of my being queer with marriage because “I am not like that”. We use the bible of a God of love – a love without condition – a love the church preaches and teaches – to suppress my fear of “that kind of (dirty) love”.
Yet “all are welcome” (so long as “they” accept “they” have no right to the orgasm of marriage).
Increasingly I find no case of man or bible. I find duplicity and institution – an argument of fear and self-loathing – not of love or inclusion.
And that is not the God Soft Hands Jesus I know, that I feel, and who I have within every fibre of my being.
What about you?