Sex in (the NIV version of) the bible is mentioned 77 times. Leviticus is a sex addict’s shopping list. The OT biblical guys and gals were more adventurous than we think ourselves. Sex seems to have been their main pastime with anyone and anything (or why the long list).
A couple that caught my eye –
“When a man has sexual relations with a woman and there is an emission of semen, both of them must bathe with water, and they will be unclean till evening.” Leviticus 15:18
Bathing in the afterglow more likely (the best way to catch forty-winks I find). And I read that semen is a great moisturiser – so don’t waste it. And “unclean till evening” – just when are we talking about having sex – morning or afternoon – and didn’t these guys have jobs to do during the day?
“‘If a man has sexual relations with a man as one does with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They are to be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” Leviticus 20:13
Are we speaking here of the missionary position (and how did “that” get its name)? Because that is impossible between two men. So are we talking about oral sex … anal sex … a hand-job …? And where does “Thou shalt not kill” fit with the consequences of this one?
And nowhere is mentioned “sex before marriage” … “sex toys” … “spicing things up” … “role play” … all the “variants” modern society thinks acceptable … where does all “that” fit?
And then this –
“But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” Matthew 5:32
Yet divorce is acceptable (albeit “unfortunate” and “sad”). And marriage after divorce is now acceptable. In fact marriage after divorce is now quite common and many who consider themselves normal Christians are divorced and remarried to divorcees.
The whole thing (it seems to me) is an “alternate universe”. It is still all about the mechanics of humping and pumping – who you can stick it in and who you cannot.
And THAT is a minefield (without a shred of love or relationship anywhere in sight)!
Every which way I look at the “same
sex gender relationship” which cannot be sanctified in marriage in the church because ”God says so AND the bible says so which is unfortunate and sad but what can we do?” Each time I hear this compromise of “If you promise not to have sex you don’t need to be married – so that is fine – we can accept you publicly.” And the venom and outrage of those who are much more honest and simply insist “It is dirty dirty dirty – take them away from me!” …
I see hypocrisy. I see bias and personal preference. I see a church determined to preach (without publicly preaching the words – usually):
“We are two-faced – you cannot trust us when we say all are welcome.
You cannot trust us when we say you can trust us.
And you cannot trust us when we say we are in this world but not of this world.
Because you will find we all say that each Sunday – but that is not a reality we like to live. We like to live a reality where there is much bullshit, where much is said and done behind your back, and where much smiling and false platitudes will be said to your face.
And you will find we excuse ourselves by saying we are ALL sinners saved by grace. So when we screw you over that is okay. When we are hypocritical that is also okay. And when we exclude you because we prefer not to fall out with each other – that is also perfectly fine.
You will find that the bible says all of this (and more) which means we are “on message” each time we agree NOT to include you.
But we will pray for you. And we will take your tithe. So long as you don’t hold hands in public – certainly don’t kiss in public – and absolutely never mention you are actually living together and already having sex together!”
The “unsaved” are not thick. Nor is God.
And I think it is time the hypocrisy was openly challenged. Or else the church will continue to paint itself into an ever smaller corner. And that means painting God into an ever smaller corner.
And that is not the God I know.